How to tell your partner about your STI?

How to tell your partner about your STI?

Results of STI testing are your personal thing, and the decision whether you want to share it with your partner is on you. However, if you are sexually active, there is a risk of STI transmission, which your parter should be aware of.

Talking about your STD status may be uncomfortable, however, don't forget that:

  • Sexually transmitted diseases are very common and most of sexually active adults get infected with an STD during their life-time. There is a high chance that you and your partner have already been exposed to an infection even before the positive test results. Monogamy limits the risk of being exposed to new types of infections.


  • Most of sexually transmitted infections do not cause any visible symptoms, and months or even years can pass until the development of symptoms and disease diagnosis. Because of such long time period from infection until diagnosis, trying to determine who gave you the infection is not possible or particularly productive. Positive testing results do not necessarily mean that your partner was unfaithful. There is no reason to blame your partner or feel guilty.


  • If there are no visible symptoms it does not mean that infection is not contagious. For instance, herpes is contagious also when there are no lesions present, which means that the infection can progress into disease even in a monogamous relationship, if the infection happened before entering the relationship.


  • Even in case of symptoms development, high percentage of people is not aware that it is a sexually transmitted disease. Women usually have a vaginal discharge, so when it is caused by an infection, it is possible to mistake it for an everyday event. Testing is the only way to resolve uncertainties regarding STD symptoms.


  • In some STDs, the other gender may be an asymptomatic infection carrier. In same way, serious complications caused by an HPV infection are fairly rare among men, making then asymptomatic transmitters of the infection. On the other hand, there are no standardised diagnostic HPV tests for men, which also influences the testing rate among men.


Talking about sexually transmitted diseases in uncomfortable, but is very important. Only with an open access to this topic you can ensure yours, and your partner's sexual health.